Fear is an Illusion!
Beyond the immediate fight or flight response in the face of immediate danger, fear is an illusion that handicaps and even paralyzes one from living life fully, stops us from experiencing all that we dream to experience.
A good question to ask ourselves is how many times a day we tell ourselves no out of fear. For example someone will not ask for the raise they know they deserve at work out of fear of being told no. Haven't they in fact just told themselves no? Someone will not ask for what they want or need in life out of fear of rejection, they have chosen to reject themselves rather than face rejection from another.
|It's not who you are that holds you back.|
It's who you think you're not!
How often do we give up on our dreams out of fear of failing at reaching them? We will accept or rather condemn ourselves to mediocre lives, unhappy relationships, unsatisfactory jobs, etc... out of fear of failure. We hang on to what we have even when what we have is no where close to what we desire simply because what we have is better than than the fear of the unknown. That my friends is not living or what life was ever intended to be.
We are meant to challenge ourselves, to say yes to ourselves every day. When we say yes to ourselves the no's we might encounter along the way from others have no negative impact on us, we simply say yes to ourselves again and keep seeking what it is we want until the world says yes to us in return, if you continue to say yes to yourself the world is guaranteed to say yes back sooner or later, you can count on that. Just as much as you can count on never getting what you want in life if you say no to yourself before you even try.
I have learned to embrace failure as a way of overcoming my fears and going after what I want in life. I will ask myself... "Self, what is the worst that can happen if I try". 10 times out of 10 I realize that the worst that could happen is I end up right where I am already at, and even when the odds are not that awesome they are darn close. For example, if I want to be successful in my chosen field I have to talk to people, share what I have to offer. If I do not share what I have to offer, no one will take advantage of it and my business does not grow. If I do share it and even only 10% of those I share it with say yes I have helped my business grow therefor making progress rather than failing before even trying.
If there is something(s) you want in life, someone you want to share your life with, places you want to go, things you want to do... just do it, just take the steps to get there, embrace failure for what it is... "No worse than where you already are" and then do it moving! You cannot get to where you want to go if you are afraid to leave where you are at!
I love you all from a place of knowing what it means to live in fear, learning what it means to face my fears and realizing the rewards of doing so.
|It's Your LIFE, so OWN IT!|